The vicious cycle of stupid love

We all have to admit in ourselves, that there was a time in our life that we labeled ourselves as "Stupid". The time were you've done this 'Thing', enjoying it for awhile... then after a minute you discovered that 'That Thing' made you dumbfounded about yourself? An example to that, you saw this really nice appliance in the TV, You decided to buy it without realizing how you would use it and what would you use it for, So you already bought it... It took you awhile to get used to this 'machine', then it started to be handy and fun, but when it actually malfunctions even when you try to fix it it does not work, you get so frustrated that you would throw it away.. A few weeks later you saw another appliance and the horrible cycle starts again. Same goes for relationships now a days.

The Vicious/Torture Cycle

That awful time when you fall for someone and this really heart-throbbing, mouth watering (A.N: ???!!!!), Heart stopping, Ground breaking moment where you actually feel like your in heaven. Of course, It doesn't always start there..

This is the love cycle, With descriptions (Accurate):

Part 1: Strangers (les étrangers)

Every part of a cheesy love story and cliche romance story part, you've heard of this and has been in this stage alot of times (Not even for romance purpose). This is when you guys haven't met each other yet, complete strangers. That person barely knows your name. So this is already self explanatory.

Part 2; Friendship (amitié)

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Friendship, This is the stage where most people really have "Real" friendship or some nasty friendship that wants to lead them in the wrong way of friendship which i often called "Flirtation-ship". Friendship is a wonderful thing/stage. This is the time when both parties actually gets to know each other... Although some people these days tends to neglect this part and pushes further.  This is where you get to know each other and this is where feelings might change into 2 sorts of Love; Brotherly/sisterly love or Romantic love.

This is where most drama begins... The drama called "Friendzone"

Friendzone; A dramatic stage of one person's life in which his/her love is too one sided, for the other party only feels of that person as a friend and not as a romantic interest. 

Although, Some people would actually be as fast as the speed of light... neglecting the beauty of friendship and pushes the other party to Romance/ love.

This usually happens now a days, in which people would just use cellphone or the web to communicate and after 2 days (Even for one day) they actually confess to you that they have fallen for you yet you've just met.

But to summaries this all, Friendship should be a part where you get to know each other, don't take this for granted because this is the way to determined correct decisions.

Part 3: The lover (l'amant)

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This stage is where the sweet and fun stuff happen, all the love, cloud nine's, Smiles and all the laughter is..

Generally from the short film 'Strangers, Again" from WongFu Productions (A.N; I am a fan. PFFT)

Anyways this is where the sweet stuff begins... Picture taking, dating, going to places, hand in hand.. Then making promises... Swearing their love will never last.. (A.N; I know. I've been there...)

Now there only 2 roads where they will only be going to... From the 'Sweet' Zone we knew then heaidng to either of the two 'roads' i'll be saying in the comfort zone.

The Good Comfort Zone and The Bad one.

The good comfort zone is when both of them will be gradually okay with each other, They still have fun with their companionship and everything else is normal and nice.This might lead to the happy ending. :)

Then there is the bad comfort, which everyone knows...

This is the road where the two of you might take each other for granted... When she calls you on the phone and you happen to play basketball, you saw your phone ringing but you didn't answer it because 'You thought your girlfriend will understand and you'll just fake a lie saying.. "Sorry [Your Pet Name From her (I.e Baby, Love, Babe..)] I didn't see my phone.. I was busy playing basketball with my friends" 

From this point onward, things gets further worse. 

You take each other for granted, you defend your own ego, you fight because you know your right.

Or because, you don't want to love him/her anymore.

One lover can never grow hate to their own partner, There are only two feelings from this stage might happen... Love, Another chance to make a stronger relationship... Or Apathy, The time you lost your interest and make excuses to get out of this relationship.

And once you've said goodbye's... Days and months, you'd feel like you want things back and make it right only to have your 'Normal' life when she/he was there. It would sound desperate but this happens. Mostly, some of them would rant each other backs, destroying one another with words and some, never met ever again.

After this one.. When hearts are healed, there are only two roads... To be friends again... Or to be strangers.

'Strangers' again. 

Sad and vicious truth, In a way that after all this time, all the money and effort wasted.

In the end, the promises and all the happy moments will only become a sad memory.

The question is... How will you stop this cycle? or I don't want this to happen to me, What do i do?

The answer is, "Guard your heart, always"

My 4th year adviser told me that on the day i told him about my ex, way back when we weren't official couples though we are hanging out.  

You see, people these days tends to say  Dude, Love is blind. Even if that person is a foul beast, a drug dealer or a psycho, I still love them because.. I don't know.

I know, Love is not a fallacy, It's not Logic or rocket science.

Though, Love is a choice. 

You didn't love that person because you don't know why... and your heart beats crazy and stuff, You love that person because you choose to love that person.

Life is of the choices you make or rather decisions you make... whatever. 

If you don't want to be in this cycle, then don't that's a choices. Love is not a vicious. It's one of the most beautiful things in this world that we have to cherish, Some would just take advantage of it.

Another thing, People will not make us happy, It is always us who makes yourself happy. It is always our choice.... because we have freedom. :)

A freedom that God gave us. :)

So always guard your heart, treat people with brotherly and sisterly love, don't be afraid to wait because there is so much that God can offer to you and

 be happy... because this is reason why he gave us freedom. This is how he loves us.

Romans 5:8 ;But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.