For the sake of love... How far can you go?

I remembered my friend told me something that made me thinking that time because I wasn’t sure on how I should react or say something about “That” present situation. Well, you see one of my friend gave her virginity to her boyfriend because she loves him and for the sake of “Not losing their relationship” and to prove her love and loyalty to her boyfriend. I know in the states of America, Virginity isn’t a big deal for most people there. But since it’s culture that most Filipino’s are quote and quoted “Conservative” (Sometimes, over conservative) Women’s virginity is like their own pride. That’s why it’s a very big deal for most girls here. But that’s not the reason why I wrote this… How far will one go, sacrificing themselves for their love one? It sounds naïve right?

Yung ganitong eksena! Grrr!!

But unfortunately, this really happens and usually we call these people “Martyr”; People who’d rather suffer just to please the other person even if it hurts so much. For example, One of the typical Filipina martyr love story of being naïve… Where she is still in a relationship with a man who doesn’t treat her right, cheats on her like for so many times but whenever they break up he’d always find away to win her back and then he cheats AGAIN. Seems like a very fictional story but in real life it really happens. There are some real men who we’re born jerks ever since they learned on how to be one. Sometimes guys like that need a very good b*tch slap don’t they?

How to b*tch slap:

If you were in her position, would you still fight for a relationship that only results you pain and so much hurt? Isn’t love suppose to be a sacrifice that would make you happy not sad. Let me ask you something for girls who are in this situation, Are you really happy because he is happy on what he is doing? Or it’s killing you inside… That feeling that you’re really tired of this but you really don’t want to lose that relationship? See? This is how people would go as far as they can just because of this thing called love. It is “Selfless” and you can see how “Love” is really present. But it’s like your teaching him to just do what he wants or you’re spoiling him. I know, it’s not that bad that he/she is taking charge sometimes but when you really love someone, you correct them and you must not be scared of losing this. One wise guy told me before “A relationship should be balanced” No one is above and no is below, Right?

As far as one concern, I know… we always lose from our emotions and feelings. But we should always remember on how to love ourselves, That there should be limitations for ourselves. We should reserve some for ourselves specially when you aren’t married with the person yet.

Remember, Before doing something… Always think if this action will do good For you and for that person. If not, You know what to do.

Love,

Chiya